Life Coaching—Process & Relationship
I do not package up solutions to your challenges and hand them to you on a platter; nor do I persuade you that a one-size-fits-all prescription is just what you need to find happiness. Instead, I understand that the path you are seeking is already structured within you and I work with you to enliven your awareness of that path.
I also have the tools to help you overcome various learned behavioral scripts that create resistance to changing direction and to moving forward—some of these are as simple as a misunderstanding of your own potential, others are conditioned reflexes that may have their roots deeply embedded in your psyche. One of my current clients summed up her experience with my life coaching process by saying "I never imagined that I could find such happiness at this stage in my life!"
Understanding the life coaching process and the relationship between you and your life coach is important. Roll your cursor over the boxes to the left and read about the coaching process, what you should expect from me, and what I expect from you.
If you want to read about the distinction between life coaches and other helping professionals, roll your mouse over the fourth box for a summary (admittedly oversimplified) description of several types of helping professionals.
What is the Life Coaching Process?
Life coaches typically work with you by telephone, not face-to-face. There is an important reason for this approach. We avoid being overshadowed by the persona you project to the people in your daily life—your family, friends, colleagues, and so forth; instead we work with your deeper self because that is where your real potential resides and where the answers to your most important questions dwell.
The best life coaches have learned to place their attention on you through the medium of your voice, without being distracted by your appearance or your presence, and uncover all they need to know to help you. It's a gift that great life coaches possess; combining this gift with the skills necessary to help you shift your energy from negative to positive, backed up by the insights of life's experiences, provides the ingredients that allow you to make meaningful and even profound changes in your life. Remember, its about you, not about your coach!
We will typically schedule one 50-minute call each week (the first couple of calls sometimes run longer as you seek to define your objectives). You should plan to make a 12-week commitment to the life coaching process—even though you will experinece immediate results, this is typically the period needed to see long-term, lasting results.
The word "commitment" is very important; if you do not plan to commit significant time and effort between calls to following through with your agreed to assignments, then you should not bother with life coaching—you'll just be wasting your investment. Of course life gets in the way occasionally, but if you expect to do the same things over and over and achieve different results you will be disappointed.
What is the coach's reltionship with you?
The following principles define the life coach-client relationship; these are important and inviolable:
What is your relationship with your coach?
Life coaching is about you, not about your coach. For you to get a return on your investment you should commit to these principles:
How do coaches differ from other helping professionals?
All helping professionals provide benefit for their clients but each has a distinctly different purpose. The following descriptions, admittedly oversimplified, will show the difference between life coaching and other traditional helping practices.